December 2018

Message From The President

Mary Ellen Waltemire, PCCMary Ellen Waltemire, PCC

You’ve touched people and known it. You’ve touched people and never may know it. Either way, you have something to give. It is in giving to one another that each of our lives becomes meaningful!

– Laura Schlessinger

As 2018 comes quickly to an end, it seems appropriate to reflect a bit on this past year as the ICF-Maryland Charter Chapter President. First and most importantly I want to sincerely thank all the individuals who have given time, energy and passion to the leadership of our Chapter. This is YOUR chapter ~ it’s evident that you care deeply about your coaching profession as you served in various leadership roles as committee members, Chapter Officers, and Board members. So hats off to you for working to accomplish our shared mission of “meeting the growing needs of coaches throughout Maryland to connect, learn and promote the profession of coaching!”

Chapter committees worked hard this year to take us to that next level of excellence. Through the collective efforts of many we’ve...

  • Offered an exciting diversity of educational programs both in person and virtually. The Professional Development committee has exceptional programs planned for 2019 that includes a series of business development topics.

  • Influenced positive social change at the grassroots level with coaching and support of Baltimore City residents as they pursue and maintain meaningful employment. The Outreach Committee continues to explore ways to impact our communities through coaching.

  • Expanded consistent communication efforts, especially through social media, to keep you, our members, in touch with all that’s happening in our Chapter and beyond.

  • Grown our Chapter membership this past year as YOU made a choice to continue your involvement with ICF and more importantly our Chapter. Connecting with other like-minded, and in some cases, not-so-like-mined coaches makes our profession such fun and engaging!

  • Developed an extensive member survey; the results are being utilized to determine ways to support you as coaches in our ever-changing professional organization. Thanks to the membership and communication committees for this collaborative effort and to those of YOU who took time to share your ideas that are being considered as we plan for the coming year and beyond.

  • Launched a Chapter Advisory Council to help strategically guide our Chapter through the perspectives and experiences of a diverse group of coaches who serve on this council.

Our future is exciting because of YOU and your active involvement. As coaches you’ve touched the lives of many~ the potential to touch and influence even more is right here, right now. My heartfelt thanks to the individuals who are leaving their leadership roles ~ my wish is for much success to those who are assuming leadership roles for 2019.

Indeed there is no greater gratifying professional and personal volunteer experience than working with ICF Maryland Charter Chapter and our exceptional coach colleagues.

May you and your families have a wonderfully fabulous Holiday season~

Mary Ellen
ICF-Maryland Chapter President

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Proposed Updates for ICF Maryland Bylaws

Be on the Look Out for them in 2019!

As with any organization, there comes a time for a review and update of documents that govern our Chapter. This past year, the Board took a close look at ICF Maryland Charter Chapter bylaws and will be proposing changes to this document. Many of the changes reflect our ongoing relationship with ICF Global and the new agreement that has been signed with them for continued support and collaboration as we continue to grow and strengthen our professional organization. During the December meeting, the Chapter board approved these by-law updates. We will be sending the proposed bylaw updates to you, our members, in January for your review and approval. Thanks to you in advance for your attention to and support of this bit of organizational business after the New Year begins.

Stay tuned ~
Mary Ellen Waltemire,
ICF Maryland Chapter President

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Annual Holiday Party!

Join Us – Let's Celebrate 2018!

January 4, 2019
6:00 PM to 9:00 PM

7 Oaks Community Center
2110 Charter Oaks Blvd
Odenton, MD 21113

Join ICF Maryland Chapter members and friends as we celebrate a successful 2018 through recognition of Board members, Committee leaders, and volunteers. We'll continue the celebration with an introduction of Board members and leaders for 2019. It's fun to connect and be part of the celebration, so register soon! We hope to see YOU there! If you'd like to help plan this event let us know~

Free to Members and Partners

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Body Language

Presenter: Irvine Nugent

Frederick Coaches' Coffee
Friday, January 25, 2019
8:30 AM to 10:00 AM

The Common Market
5728 Buckeystown Pike
Frederick, MD 21704

Event Coordinator: Elisabeth Vismans 

(Meeting held in the classroom located between the Customer Service Desk and the restrooms.)

FREE – ICF Maryland & ICF Global Members
FREE – Non-Members / Guests

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Becoming a Color Conscious Coach

Presenter: Tamara Smiley Hamilton, MA, AS

Zoom Webinar
Wednesday, January 30, 2019
11:30 AM – 1:00 PM

$30 – ICF Maryland & ICF Global Members
$40 – Non-Members / Guests

1 CCEU in Core Competencies
0.5 CCEU in Resource Development

Some questions to ponder…

  • Are you reluctant to advance powerful questions related to race and inclusion during the coaching engagement?

  • Are you hesitant to name the racial elephant in the room?

  • Are you stuck in your own story that you are the right coach if the person is different from you?

  • Do you want to be empowered to discuss the undiscussable?

  • Are you curious about how race shows up in the coaching engagement and pushed aside for fear of being vulnerable of not knowing where the conversation will go?

If you can nod “yes” to any of these questions, join ICF Maryland for an intriguing conversation with Tamara Smiley Hamilton, an expert in coaching in race space. Tamara will share stories and insights, ask powerful questions, and demonstrate how to frame and name issues related to race and non-inclusion. She will support your journey towards becoming a color-conscious coach.

Learning Objectives:

Upon completion of the webinar, coaches will:

  • Increase their understanding of racial formation and the generational trauma that resides in clients of color, notably African American clients

  • Enhance their understanding of why being a color-conscious coach is critical in the current reality in the US and globally

  • Examine their internal landscape on race and begin the pruning process

  • Have a beginning knowledge of the power of questions in the context of diversity and inclusion

  • Create a new story as a color-conscious coach.

This webinar is designed to support coaches seeking to gain a better understanding of how they can be more impactful with their clients when race and diversity may be contributing factors to a client’s capacity to move forward. It will support coaches who want to examine their own interior landscapes to remove the weeds that entangle them from seeing color with their clients. It addresses the fear and the hesitation that some coaches have reported as barriers. She will provide examples of framing and naming during the coaching engagement.

About the Presenter.  Tamara Smiley Hamilton, MA, AS, is a global coach, facilitator and professional speaker. Her work has been appreciated on military bases in Korea, Germany, and Japan. Tamara is the founder and CEO of Audacious Coaching LLC, a professional services firm addressing inclusive conflict resolution. As a conflict resolution specialist and as a diversity and sensitivity leadership coach, she helps senior leaders to transform their thinking about race and inclusion. She is often called upon to create and facilitate healing circles when race relations become toxic to an organization’s culture. Coaching is a key component to addressing wounds inflicted by non-inclusive work environments. Ms. Hamilton can be reached at [email protected].

Tamara is an Accredited Speaker with Toastmasters International, a designation held by only 81 people out of a membership of 366,000 worldwide. She uses her global platform to speak on “Creating Inclusive Communities.” She is the recipient of the James H. Laue Endowment Scholarship from the School of Conflict Analysis and Resolution at George Mason University. This honored award is given to graduate students who continue the peacebuilding work of the late Dr. Laue, a founder of the conflict resolution field. Tamara came of age during the Watts Rebellion of 1965 and has dedicated her life’s work to building bridges connecting the human spirit. Her work is taking her to Rwanda in Central Africa to greater understand the power of forgiveness, healing, and reconciliation after violent ethnic conflict.

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Note: As an African American woman who is a coach, my expert knowledge relates to African Americans. I am a Black Studies major: BA, Scripps College, 1970; African Studies and Research, MA, Howard University, 1976; Communications Management, Annenberg School of Communication, University of Southern California, 1981; Executive Leadership, Georgetown University, 2009; Advanced Coaching Certificate in Leadership and Well-Being, George Mason University, 2014. I am currently completing a Masters in Conflict Resolution at George Mason University (2019) with a focus on race relations in the United States. This webinar does not intend to project expert knowledge of all people of color but expertise within the African American context.

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Talk Yourself Into Success to Get the Outcome You Desire

Presenter: Susan Commander Samakow, PCC, CPCC

Business Development Community of Practice
Friday, February 8, 2019
8:30 AM – 10:00 AM

The UMBC Training Center
6996 Columbia Gateway Drive
Columbia, MD 21046?
(Check with Front Desk for the Suite Number)

$20 – ICF Maryland & ICF Global Members
$35 – Non-Members / Guests

1.5 CCEUs in Resource Development

For coaches and your clients…for business and life…for richer or poorer (kidding!)…

Start 2019 off with fun, excitement about the possibilities ahead, and with determination, so that you can have a positive mindset and develop more resiliency, no matter what is happening in your life.

Have you worked with a client who is stuck or overwhelmed? Have you ever felt that way? Do you have a client who is fearful and anxious? How are clients with change and transition? How are you with change and transition? Are you or your clients energized or depleted at the end of a day? Create a new story in 2019.

My formula is simple and can be immediately applied to your life and to your coaching:

Positive, Productive Self-Talk + Resilience = Thriving Life

This presentation’s takeaways:

  • Proven positive self-talk strategies

  • Resilience techniques

  • Influence of change and transition

  • Neuroscience in lay-terms to support people in making positive changes in their lives

Take action and register now!

About the Presenter. Susan Commander Samakow, PCC, CPCC. With a compelling combination of leadership savvy, straight-to-the-point smarts, and a signature warm commanding presence, Susan Commander Samakow is America’s Premier Self Talk Coach. She is a business owner, wife, mother of two, former President of the DC Chapter of the International Coach Federation, and is passionate about living and teaching others confidence and resilience strategies that make a difference. She earned the PCC certification from the ICF, and her CPCC from CTI. Susan graduated from the ORSC program, C-IQ, Foundations of Positive Psychology, served as the Education Committee Chair for ICF, and created the East Coast Chapter Leaders, as well as unifying the ICF with ATD and CBDON.

Waking up energized and going to sleep fulfilled is a gift that Susan carries with her each and every day. Yet, she knows not everyone experiences life in this way, and her mission is to change that. Susan’s talks, workshops, and programs get to the inner core of what drives her audiences and clients to be fulfilled and helps them quickly transition forward. Her programs, workshops and coaching sessions help clients learn what is getting in their way and arms them with the skills to move forward to fulfilling success.

Ultimately, the audience demand for Susan’s expertise has led to publishing her first book, Talk Yourself Into Success and her Mindcamp for Women Professionals.

Passionate about the new “neuroscience” of the brain, and empowering others to reach their greatest potential, Susan Commander Samakow is poised to be one of the new thought leaders on self-talk, resilience, and transition for today’s modern professional. She also gives workshops on different topics such as life and career transition, time management and organizational skills, communication skills, leadership and courage, and so on.

Susan has been featured on WCBS, WNBC, and writes a monthly column for a digital forum.

We invite all coaches wanting to build their practice to join us for the Business Development Community of Practice meeting. Please register so we can plan for seating.

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Coaching for Self-Leadership

Using Internal Family Systems for Coach and Client Transformation

Presenter: Guthrie Sayen, Ph.D., PCC

Zoom Webinar
Tuesday, February 26, 2019
11:00 AM – 12:30 PM 

1.5 CCEUs in Core Competencies (Pending)

$30 – ICF Maryland & ICF Global Members
$40 – Non-Members / Guests

Coaching for Self Leadership will introduce coaches to the Internal Family Systems model, which will help them work with parts of the psyche that block transformation. The four core ideas of this webinar are:

  1. The natural state of the human psyche is multiplicity. We have many parts, or subpersonalities, each with its own plan for our happiness. This multiplicity is normal and healthy. Problems arise, however, when parts have conflicting agendas: one may yearn for transformation and hire a coach, while another may wish to preserve the status quo and prevent the client from taking the steps they committed to during their coaching session. Both coach and client can judge the blocking part. That’s why understanding the next idea is essential to effective coaching.

  2. All parts are good, even parts with dysfunctional strategies, like criticizing us or distracting us from tasks. When parts are befriended—that is, when they are acknowledged, understood from their perspective, and appreciated for their intentions—they reveal their secret histories and their deep desire to help. All parts are inherently noble, even those vicious inner critics, even those parts that want to binge on something that is not good for us. It is crucial to remember that parts are often not what they seem at first. We must hold all parts, like all clients, with unconditional positive regard.

  3. We are Self. When all the parts step back, what is left is Self. Every major religious and spiritual tradition recognizes Self. It is variously called Spirit, Atman, Tao, Buddha nature, Christ consciousness, or the image of God. The goal of every spiritual path is to access and live from Self. Self is our essence, and it is whole, wise, loving, and good. Coaches can access a critical mass of Self and then help their clients do the same. Indeed, the goal of all coaching is to access this internal resource, which is characterized by eight words beginning with the letter C: calmness, clarity, confidence, curiosity, compassion, connectedness, courage, and creativity.

  4. The main strategy of Coaching for Self-Leadership is to introduce the client’s parts to the client’s Self. When parts come into relationship with Self, they begin to heal. When Self is allowed to lead, it brings balance, harmony, and transformation to the inner world. Self-led people can then help bring balance, harmony, and transformation to the external world.

Coaching for Self-Leadership is a map of the human psyche, a method for facilitating transformation, and, ultimately, a way of life. The map is simple. It is an equilateral triangle. The lower left angle represents the coach; the lower right angle represents the client; the apex represents Self. This triangle describes the three key relationships for facilitating transformation:

  1. The first relationship, represented by the left side of the triangle, is the coach’s relationship with their inner world. The coach practices accessing a critical mass of Self. This prepares the coach for the second relationship.

  2. The second relationship, represented by the base of the triangle, is the coach-client relationship. This is the foundation of the whole coaching enterprise; everything depends on the quality of this relationship. The coach-client relationship prepares the client for the third relationship.

  3. The third relationship, represented by the right side of the triangle, is the client’s relationship with their internal world. Everything the coach does, all the skills and strategies, are designed to help the client access a critical mass of Self. From there, the client has access to the qualities (the eight C-words) that allow them to heal and transform.

Coaching for Self Leadership expands coach’s awareness by teaching them how to transform themselves, so they can help others transform. Thus, this is model that explains the psyche, offers strategies for working with the psyche, and opens a way for changing the world.

Learning Objectives:

  1. Understanding that establishing trust and intimacy with a client depends on first establishing trust and intimacy with one’s own parts.

  2. Understanding that coaching presence depends on accessing a critical mass of Self in oneself.

  3. Understanding that the North Star for every coaching session, for both coach and client, is Self-leadership, that is, to access a critical mass of Self, which is just enough Self-energy to be curious and compassionate about the inner world.

  4. Understanding that all parts of the client are welcome—no exceptions. What’s in the way is the way.

  5. Understanding the three relationships: coach with their own parts, coach with client, and client with their own parts. Change is relational.

About the Presenter. Guthrie Sayen, PhD, PCC, created the Coaching for Self Leadership model, which is based on the core insights of Internal Family Systems, the most revolutionary psychotherapy model now being practiced. He created the curriculum for Coaching with Spirit, the ICF-certified coach-training program offered by The Graduate Institute. He created the most popular advanced coach-training program offered by Leadership That Works, another ICF-certified coach training school. He has trained coaches for the True Purpose Institute, and he has mentored hundreds of coaches at all stages of their careers.

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A Warm Welcome to Our 2019 Board of Directors

Mary Ellen Waltemire, PCC
Immediate Past President

Rayna Schroeder, PCC

Lori Raggio

Margaret Wilson, PCC

Wendolyne Buckner, ACC


Bonnie Blueford
Communications Chair

Angie Dabbs, PCC
Community Outreach Chair

Karen Jacobs, PCC
Membership Chair

Patricia Hinton Walker, PCC
Professional Development Chair


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Thank You for Providing Your Input

On The 2018 Member Survey!!!

Wanda J. Campbell, Ph.D., PCC
Communications Chair

The Board of the ICF Maryland Charter Chapter and I first want to thank those of you who participated in our 2018 Member Survey. Because of you the survey was a huge success!

The typical response rate for an external survey such as this one is 10 – 15%. The members and partners who responded brought us above 35%. Furthermore, 93% of you completed the entire survey! While there was never a doubt that ICF Maryland members and partners were incredible, conscientious, and caring people, the thoughtful responses that you provided brought that message home loud and clear. Again, thank you.

Here is what we learned about you:

  • Those who responded to our survey…

    • 63% are either pursuing Accreditation or Certification or have earned an ACC. The percentages were the same for both categories. 27% had earned their PCC, 4% had earned their MCC, and the remaining folks described themselves as “Other.” (e.g., considering becoming a coach).

    • A number of coaches are offering a variety of types of coaching and you were asked to identify all of the areas in which you worked. Here are the results:

      • Leadership Coaching(73%)

      • Executive Coaching (61%)

      • Life/Life Enhancement Coaching (30%)

      • Health and Wellness Coaching (11%)

      • Other (11%)

      • Relationship Coaching (7.1%).

It will be interesting to see how these percentages change over time as newer areas of coaching become more established.

    • 20% have been members or partners for less than one year. The remaining 80% were about equally divided between the other three categories – 1 to 2 years, 3 to 5 years, and more than 5 years.

  • What benefits were rated “Important” or “Very Important”

    • Educational events were the most important as shown below:

      • Core Competency programs (93%)

      • Business Development programs (77%).

    • Webinars were preferred over in-person events by 20%

    • Community and Networking closely followed educational events at 76%.

    • Communications (e.g., Newsletter and weekly Coaching Connection) were third at 49% and 56%, respectively.

  • Preferred Sources of Information

    • The Website, Newsletter, and Coaching Connection were tied at 80% as the most frequently used sources of information.

    • Facebook and LinkedIn were used by 39% and 36%, respectively.

  • Preferred Communications Content

    • Events (96%)

    • Articles and links with advice from seasoned coaches – what worked, what didn’t (90%)

    • Articles on client context – motivation, leadership (87%)

What we are doing with the data:

  • The Professional Development Committee already has acted on your preferences. Two of the three educational events in January and February are webinars.

  • The Communications Committee has begun speaking to seasoned coaches about writing articles. If you would like to write an article for one of our communication outlets, please reach out to one of us as follows:

The Board as a whole will be acting on the information as they make decisions in the coming year.

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Job Opportunity for ICF Members

Opportunity to Join Our Team 

We are a small but mighty firm with prime contracts coaching in the government and private sectors looking to bring on a few new coaches, specifically at the early to mid-level of experience for one project in particular. Specifics include:

  • Located near enough to the Laurel/Ft Meade region to do at least one meeting in person

  • Have or willing to get certification in 3 of the following 5 instruments, Hogan, Leadership Versatility Index, EQI 2.0, CPI 260, FIRO B

  • Qualify at one of the following levels:

Category B: Coaches with a doctorate or other professional degree; certification from a coaching certification body and/or five years’ experience coaching in the public/private sector with at least two years’ experience coaching at the C-Suite level.

Category C: Coaches with a doctorate or other professional degree; certification from a professional coaching certification body and/or five years’ experience coaching in the public/private sector.

Please contact Jan Rybeck at [email protected] or (571) 286-9630.

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Upcoming Events

ICF Maryland Chapter Holiday Party

Friday, January 4th – 6:00 PM to 9:00 PM

7 Oaks Community Center
2110 Charter Oaks Blvd
Odenton, MD 21113

Frederick Coaches' Coffee Presents...
Body Language

Friday, January 25th – 8:30 AM to 10:00 AM

The Common Market, 5728 Buckeystown Pike, Frederick, MD 21704
Earn 1 Core Competency CCEUs

Becoming a Color-Conscious Coach
Presenter: Tamara Smiley Hamilton

Wednesday, January 30th
11:30 AM to 1:00 PM

Zoom Webinar

Talk Yourself Into Success to Get the Outcome You Desire
Presenter: Susan Commander Samakow, PCC, CPCC

Friday, February 8th – 8:30 AM to 10:00 AM

The UMBC Training Center
6996 Columbia Gateway Drive
Columbia, MD 21046
1.5 CCEUs in Resource Development

Coaching for Self-Leadership: Using Internal Family Systems for Coach and Client Transformation
Presenter: Guthrie Sayen, PhD, PCC

Tuesday, February 26th – 11:00 AM to 12:30 PM

Zoom Webinar
1 CCEU in Core Competencies and 0.5 CCEU in Resource Development

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